Chapter 1
Your reading begins in the locker room before a football game. But, while this book is about a football team, it is more centrally focused on life and how to live it. If you’re looking for confirmation, check out what the boys are yelling about as they prepare to play. It’s not the message you expect, that playing football, or doing anything of value, is about love for the people you are with.
Gilman’s football team is different because the men leading it don’t view themselves as football coaches, but as teachers. They coach football to help boys become men, not to win games.
Chapter 3
What kind of person is Joe Ehrmann at this point in the book? He really seems to be enjoying his life, he’s young, a professional football player, fairly wealthy, he’s got it all. Are those things the most important facets of his personality? Put more simply, what does the author remember about him?
Look at the lessons Marx learns as a ballboy for the Baltimore Colts. Are any of them specifically about sports?
DTD Ask your parents about the most important lessons they have learned. Where did they come by these lessons? Chances are, the most important lessons you learn about how to behave won’t be taught in a classroom. Where do you think you have learned something important outside of school?
Chapter 4
Joe’s life changes forever in chapter 4. After his brother’s death, Joe asks himself, “What is the purpose of life? Where does meaning—real value—come from?” (Marx, 20). This question drives Joe’s founding of the Ronald McDonald house in Baltimore.
He is obviously different from the person you met in chapter three. He isn’t nearly as happy, but is he better?
What can you take from Joe’s response to a personal tragedy? If we all responded to terrible events the way Joe does, by trying to make a difference in the lives of others, would the world be a better place?
Chapter 7
Here we get to the central point of your book. The problems of society, according to Joe, are caused by our collective failure to teach boys how to become men. This is an uncomfortable topic for many of us, and one that seems to be focused on half of the population. However, it is valuable, and it impacts all of us because we aren’t talking about masculinity, we are talking about humanity.
From the book:
"In the NFL, what you have is fifty-three men—black men and white men, men from the inner cities, from the suburbs, from the farmlands of America—and they’re able to come together every year and kind of set aside their own personal goals, wants and ambitions, in order to put the team first. And I think that’s the challenge, really, facing us in this society, is how we learn to come together, across all racial, economic, and geographical divisions, to make this society a much better place.”
You are attending a public high school in America which means you are here with everyone who lives within our attendance area regardless of race, economic situation, background, religion, sexual orientation or belief system. How can we work together to erase the divisions between us?
Joe also tells the story of his upbringing in this chapter. What kind of relationship did he have with his father? What is your reaction when you read his story?
Chapter 8
“The way we measure greatness is the impact you make in other people’s lives” (Marx, 48).
DTD Ask your parents how your family measures greatness. Ask them to think about people who they consider great and why. Is your definition of great person similar to Coach (Biff)Poggi’s?
The Gilman football team has a rule that no member of the team will allow anyone at school to eat lunch alone. Is this a tradition we should seek to implement at Mountain Range? If we were to not allow anyone to feel isolated at school, would we come closer to being the “team” from chapter 7?
Why is it so important to the coaches for every member of the team to play in the first half of every game? Are they more concerned with building a team or with winning games? Are they right?
This chapter brings to mind George Orwell's
Such, Such Were the Joys. Do you see any similarities in Orwell's experience at boarding school and the discussion of shame and masculinity in this book?
Chapter 9
Mike’s story is interesting. He suffers a huge consequence, and returns a better person. Why? What allows him to improve?
Gilman loses to DeMantha, but would you rather be on Gilman’s team or DeMantha’s? This season is long over, which group of young men is still benefitting from it?
Chapter 10
False Masculinity is based on the following concepts: athletic ability, sexual conquest and economic success.
What is the flaw with each of these methods for defining a man? What would Joe replace them with and why?
Think carefully about the social world you inhabit. Is Joe Ehrmann at least partially right? If so, what can and should we do about it?
The text is really about societal priorities. Note the messages Joe talks about on page 73, our media promote a great deal of poisonous ideas, one of them being this false masculinity Joe is discussing here.
DTD Read this chapter with your parents, do they agree?